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Saturday, November 27, 2010
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Saturday, October 16, 2010
3 Steps to Improving Relationships, Making Better Friends and Reclaiming Social Life
the circle of people I know has rapidly expanded. Joining college and other activities brought a new pace to social life; a pace much quicker than what I was used to in the comfort zone of my home town. The same ten friends, day after day, year after year, with change coming gradually and naturally.
This changed. Not only do new aquaintances pour in weekly, they also diversify horizontally and vertically. You hit the age where the concept family shifts into a different light, where business contacts suddenly have meaning as career thoughts emerge, and where the principle of “friends” needs some serious redefining. It went so far that I didn’t have time for my family, was spending non-quality time with people I didn’t really care about and forgot to foster those relations that were really important to me. This had to stop. I had to ask myself, what are friends really worth to me?
So here’s a project for the slow christmas days ahead: Renegotiate your social relations. Organize your friends.
It might seem a bit over the top to introduce a system into your social life, but if you want to manage time effectively, you need to identify who you’ll spend it with. It’s a mental exercise and a commitment with yourself. We negotiate with our own lives, career choices, to-dos – so why not friends? Here’s the way I did it.
Step 1. Categorize your friends.
This isn’t a new concept, you already do it with Facebook lists. Now do it in real life. You won’t be able to categorize them all at once, but over the course of time, you’ll have collected everyone worth thinking of. One way to categorize it comes from GTD Times, but you can use any variant of this if you like
Closest and current friends. These are my dearest friends and are, fortunately, a current and regular part of my life. Contrast with Category 2
Closest but not-current friends. I value these friends equally to Category 1 friends but life circumstances have deprived me of enjoying them as I wish. The main reason is that they live far away. I know that if circumstances improved they would be Category 1.
Forever-friends. I want these people to be friends for life, but they do not have the same level of value-sharing as I do with Category 1 & 2 friends. Many of these friends are from various schools, my childhood, etc. Some of them were Category 1/2 friends but we grew apart. Many relatives might be in this category, as well.
Current acquaintances. I know these people and like them, but my interaction is very context-specific. If that context changed the relationship would likely end. Examples are neighbors, some co-workers, work-out partners or sports team members, and service people like your local butcher, bartender, storekeepers, hair stylists, etc.
Not-current acquaintances. These are people I know and like, but they are not actively in my life and presently I do not expect to do anything to change that. Whenever I run in to them, I am glad to see them. Examples would be people I see if I happen to visit their towns (or vice versa), or see them at a party of mutual friends. However, I do try to reach out via email or calls on occasion.
Step 2. Analyze your time spent on these categories
This doesn’t have to peer-reviewd, data-backed analysis, but just think back one month and ask yourself:
How often did I spend a good time with category 1 (outside uni or office).
How often did I see the people from category two?
Which people in category 4 might move up to category 1?
Which people in category 5 do I spend too much time with?
Step 3. Align time with your categories
The third step would be to make the necessary changes in order to improve your social life in a structured manner. Here’s one approach that I find works well.
Category 1: No need to invest much more time with these people, but could you invest it better? Chatting by the water dispenser vs. a going out for dinner and wine is the choice here. Choose wisely.
Category 2: Schedule time to spend with these people. Do it well in advance. Go through your list and make a decided effort to meet them and spent useful time. I am a weekender, so I block some time on the weekends for my parents and brother. Family often falls out of focus when you leave for uni. Also, one big change in this area was that I had to begin making appointments with old friends – we couldn’t rely on just “seeing each other tomorrow” anymore. This was a big insight for me.
Category 3: Make sure to touch base regularly of the “forever” becomes somewhat diluted. Even if it’s your mom, not seeing each other for months changes things.
Category 4: This is a major time-sink. Most people in college spend a lot of time with such people – which isn’t a bad thing, but you should choose carefully, as time spent here might be fun while it lasts, but limit it to a healthy amount. These are people whom you know because they’re around, and unless you take a focused effort, thsi relationship isn’t going to grow into something valuable. I find mindless conversation guilt-inducing, like after you’ve eaten too much knowing you shouldn’t have. Here too, use your schedule, but instead of scheduling extra time here, schedule it in order to limit yourself. And regularly rethink which relations here are possibly worth extending. Then focus on fostering those. By scheduling social events, you can gauge and cancel events when you think it’s going in the wrong direction.
Category 5: Former schoomates which don’t fall into category 2 form most of this pool for me. While actively scheduling time with these people helps, it is more important to choose the right people. Some of these, you might just want to drop. Some of them never call back. Keep this category slim, by cutting people or investing time and energy into moving them up to category 2 or even 3.
The key in all of this using your calendar effectively. Pull up the next week, and drop in chunks of time you will dedicate to nurtuting relationships across all categories. This will keep your relationships moving forward. Take control of your time, and the quality of people that fill it. Take charge
This changed. Not only do new aquaintances pour in weekly, they also diversify horizontally and vertically. You hit the age where the concept family shifts into a different light, where business contacts suddenly have meaning as career thoughts emerge, and where the principle of “friends” needs some serious redefining. It went so far that I didn’t have time for my family, was spending non-quality time with people I didn’t really care about and forgot to foster those relations that were really important to me. This had to stop. I had to ask myself, what are friends really worth to me?
So here’s a project for the slow christmas days ahead: Renegotiate your social relations. Organize your friends.
It might seem a bit over the top to introduce a system into your social life, but if you want to manage time effectively, you need to identify who you’ll spend it with. It’s a mental exercise and a commitment with yourself. We negotiate with our own lives, career choices, to-dos – so why not friends? Here’s the way I did it.
Step 1. Categorize your friends.
This isn’t a new concept, you already do it with Facebook lists. Now do it in real life. You won’t be able to categorize them all at once, but over the course of time, you’ll have collected everyone worth thinking of. One way to categorize it comes from GTD Times, but you can use any variant of this if you like
Closest and current friends. These are my dearest friends and are, fortunately, a current and regular part of my life. Contrast with Category 2
Closest but not-current friends. I value these friends equally to Category 1 friends but life circumstances have deprived me of enjoying them as I wish. The main reason is that they live far away. I know that if circumstances improved they would be Category 1.
Forever-friends. I want these people to be friends for life, but they do not have the same level of value-sharing as I do with Category 1 & 2 friends. Many of these friends are from various schools, my childhood, etc. Some of them were Category 1/2 friends but we grew apart. Many relatives might be in this category, as well.
Current acquaintances. I know these people and like them, but my interaction is very context-specific. If that context changed the relationship would likely end. Examples are neighbors, some co-workers, work-out partners or sports team members, and service people like your local butcher, bartender, storekeepers, hair stylists, etc.
Not-current acquaintances. These are people I know and like, but they are not actively in my life and presently I do not expect to do anything to change that. Whenever I run in to them, I am glad to see them. Examples would be people I see if I happen to visit their towns (or vice versa), or see them at a party of mutual friends. However, I do try to reach out via email or calls on occasion.
Step 2. Analyze your time spent on these categories
This doesn’t have to peer-reviewd, data-backed analysis, but just think back one month and ask yourself:
How often did I spend a good time with category 1 (outside uni or office).
How often did I see the people from category two?
Which people in category 4 might move up to category 1?
Which people in category 5 do I spend too much time with?
Step 3. Align time with your categories
The third step would be to make the necessary changes in order to improve your social life in a structured manner. Here’s one approach that I find works well.
Category 1: No need to invest much more time with these people, but could you invest it better? Chatting by the water dispenser vs. a going out for dinner and wine is the choice here. Choose wisely.
Category 2: Schedule time to spend with these people. Do it well in advance. Go through your list and make a decided effort to meet them and spent useful time. I am a weekender, so I block some time on the weekends for my parents and brother. Family often falls out of focus when you leave for uni. Also, one big change in this area was that I had to begin making appointments with old friends – we couldn’t rely on just “seeing each other tomorrow” anymore. This was a big insight for me.
Category 3: Make sure to touch base regularly of the “forever” becomes somewhat diluted. Even if it’s your mom, not seeing each other for months changes things.
Category 4: This is a major time-sink. Most people in college spend a lot of time with such people – which isn’t a bad thing, but you should choose carefully, as time spent here might be fun while it lasts, but limit it to a healthy amount. These are people whom you know because they’re around, and unless you take a focused effort, thsi relationship isn’t going to grow into something valuable. I find mindless conversation guilt-inducing, like after you’ve eaten too much knowing you shouldn’t have. Here too, use your schedule, but instead of scheduling extra time here, schedule it in order to limit yourself. And regularly rethink which relations here are possibly worth extending. Then focus on fostering those. By scheduling social events, you can gauge and cancel events when you think it’s going in the wrong direction.
Category 5: Former schoomates which don’t fall into category 2 form most of this pool for me. While actively scheduling time with these people helps, it is more important to choose the right people. Some of these, you might just want to drop. Some of them never call back. Keep this category slim, by cutting people or investing time and energy into moving them up to category 2 or even 3.
The key in all of this using your calendar effectively. Pull up the next week, and drop in chunks of time you will dedicate to nurtuting relationships across all categories. This will keep your relationships moving forward. Take control of your time, and the quality of people that fill it. Take charge
Life events, number of social relationships, and twelve-month naturalistic course of major depression in a community sample of women.
Research suggests that negative life events and social support are associated with the course of major depressive episodes. However, the manner in which these variables may be specifically interrelated remains unclear. The present study compared two models of the relation among life events, number of social relationships, and the naturalistic course of major depression in a community sample of women. The life event profiles of 32 women were assessed during their index episode of major depression (T1) and again 1 year later (T2). Measures included the Hamilton Depression Rating Scale, the Beck Depression Inventory, and the Life Events and Difficulties Schedule. Data analysis focused on whether life events and social relationships were independent predictors of depressive symptomatology (i.e., "main effects" model) or whether social relationships moderated the influence of life events on the naturalistic course of participants' major depressive episodes (i.e., "stress buffering" model). The results only partially supported the main effects model and failed to support the buffering model of the relation among life events, social relationships, and naturalistic depression course. In particular, the present findings indicated that number of social relationships was a significantly stronger predictor of naturalistic depression course than were life events. These findings suggest that insufficient social support is a particularly strong prospective predictor of elevated depressive symptomatology. Determining the quality of patients' social support networks should be a regular part of clinical assessment, and efforts should be made to help depressed patients establish supportive relationships both in the therapeutic environment and in their personal lives.
Improve your social life: the people you should keep up a relationship with
You will forge many different relationships throughout the course of your life. Some are fleeting, but some are meant to last a lifetime.
You will forge many different relationships throughout the course of your life. Some are fleeting, but some are meant to last a lifetime. Take a look at some of the people you should keep up a relationship with:
YOUR CLOSE CHILDHOOD FRIENDS
The friends that you make when you are young will often grow up to be the friends that you should keep when you are an adult. I’m not saying that you should try to hunt down your long-lost kindergarten pals, but if you were close friends with someone or with a group of people throughout your high school years, then you should do your best to keep the relationships going. You undoubtedly have formed many great memories together, and it is always more fun to reminisce with the people who you were with than with people who have no idea who or what you are talking about. It is often difficult to maintain these friendships after you go off into your adult ventures, such as work, college, marriage, and child-rearing. Many of your friends might move away, or you might move away yourself. However, you will all probably share the feeling that your hometown is your home base. You should keep in touch through telephone calls, e-mails, and visits, at least annually. It’s always great to have friends in your life who knew you when you were in your formative years.
FAMILY MEMBERS
The relationships that you can build with the members of your immediate and extended family are often some of the most important relationships that you will have in your life. You should strive to stay in close contact with your family. Spend holidays together. If you live far away, make an effort to travel to visit each other a couple of times a year so that you don’t lose touch. Don’t allow petty quarrels to ruin your familial relationships. There is often a lot of baggage and history that can sometimes stir up negative past emotions, but it is in your best interest to make an effort to keep your family close, and you probably will regret it if you don’t.
THE PARTY PEOPLE
Everyone knows someone who is always the life of the party, who always seems to know what is going on around town, and what is new with everyone in town. This is a person worthy of maintaining a relationship with, because they will keep your social life alive, and they are fun to be around. You might not have a tight bond with this person, but you get along really well, and it is always an adventure when you get together. Keep your party pals in your life so that you can live vicariously through them from time to time, and so that you can help to balance them out when they need a little down time.
CO-WORKERS
In the business world, it is often all about who you know. You should never burn bridges with your past employers or co-workers, because you never know when you will need a reference or a favor. Plus, you often spend more time with your co-workers than you do with your friends and extended family. If you work in an office for forty hours a week, you are bound to get to know the people around you. Once you leave the job, try to keep in touch. Get lunch with your former co-workers from time to time, send a greeting card during the holiday season, and give them a call to touch base every now and then. You will be building your base of business contacts, and you will be leaving a positive impression on the people who you have worked with.
COLLEGE BUDDIES
If you went to college, then you know that the relationships you build with your college buddies are very special. Going away to college is the first step into the world of adulthood for many people, and the friendships that you create during these formative years are often very profound, and they are with people whom you share similar interests and world views with. Often, unless you went to a local college, many of your former college friends live in various places throughout the country, so it can be difficult to stay in touch. Make a point of meeting up once a year so that you can maintain your relationships and see how each other’s lives are progressing. E-mailing and instant messaging are other great ways to communicate if you have little time for talking on the phone.
You will forge many different relationships throughout the course of your life. Some are fleeting, but some are meant to last a lifetime. Take a look at some of the people you should keep up a relationship with:
YOUR CLOSE CHILDHOOD FRIENDS
The friends that you make when you are young will often grow up to be the friends that you should keep when you are an adult. I’m not saying that you should try to hunt down your long-lost kindergarten pals, but if you were close friends with someone or with a group of people throughout your high school years, then you should do your best to keep the relationships going. You undoubtedly have formed many great memories together, and it is always more fun to reminisce with the people who you were with than with people who have no idea who or what you are talking about. It is often difficult to maintain these friendships after you go off into your adult ventures, such as work, college, marriage, and child-rearing. Many of your friends might move away, or you might move away yourself. However, you will all probably share the feeling that your hometown is your home base. You should keep in touch through telephone calls, e-mails, and visits, at least annually. It’s always great to have friends in your life who knew you when you were in your formative years.
FAMILY MEMBERS
The relationships that you can build with the members of your immediate and extended family are often some of the most important relationships that you will have in your life. You should strive to stay in close contact with your family. Spend holidays together. If you live far away, make an effort to travel to visit each other a couple of times a year so that you don’t lose touch. Don’t allow petty quarrels to ruin your familial relationships. There is often a lot of baggage and history that can sometimes stir up negative past emotions, but it is in your best interest to make an effort to keep your family close, and you probably will regret it if you don’t.
THE PARTY PEOPLE
Everyone knows someone who is always the life of the party, who always seems to know what is going on around town, and what is new with everyone in town. This is a person worthy of maintaining a relationship with, because they will keep your social life alive, and they are fun to be around. You might not have a tight bond with this person, but you get along really well, and it is always an adventure when you get together. Keep your party pals in your life so that you can live vicariously through them from time to time, and so that you can help to balance them out when they need a little down time.
CO-WORKERS
In the business world, it is often all about who you know. You should never burn bridges with your past employers or co-workers, because you never know when you will need a reference or a favor. Plus, you often spend more time with your co-workers than you do with your friends and extended family. If you work in an office for forty hours a week, you are bound to get to know the people around you. Once you leave the job, try to keep in touch. Get lunch with your former co-workers from time to time, send a greeting card during the holiday season, and give them a call to touch base every now and then. You will be building your base of business contacts, and you will be leaving a positive impression on the people who you have worked with.
COLLEGE BUDDIES
If you went to college, then you know that the relationships you build with your college buddies are very special. Going away to college is the first step into the world of adulthood for many people, and the friendships that you create during these formative years are often very profound, and they are with people whom you share similar interests and world views with. Often, unless you went to a local college, many of your former college friends live in various places throughout the country, so it can be difficult to stay in touch. Make a point of meeting up once a year so that you can maintain your relationships and see how each other’s lives are progressing. E-mailing and instant messaging are other great ways to communicate if you have little time for talking on the phone.
As much as you love your family--OK, so you don't always love your family, but most of the time you do--you need friends in your life. Especially when you are a teenager. When you are with people your own age it is usually easier to have more fun than with your family.Friends are usually on the same wavelength as you are. You can talk to them about everything. You can laugh together and cry together. Friends understand you, your moods, your problems and your worries. They share your dreams, doubts and fears, and most importantly they love you for being yourself. When you are a teen, sometimes your friends feel more like family than your own family does. Why is that? Because you chose your friends. It is at this period in a teen's life that people such as the parental units are looked upon as out of touch with their child's environment and are frequently seen as the "policing" units rather than parents.Because so much is going on in your head as a teenager that it seems as if no one else understands you but your close friends, and that parents cannot appreciate your stressors and life issues. Teens not only have to grapple with their emotional ups and downs, but also with hormones, peer pressures and trying to understand their bodies. Having close relationships with the opposite sex can be very exciting and gratifying, but with that comes the urge to explore each other sexually, and most often this is engaged with either a very limited knowledge base about sex, pregnancy, contraception and STDs, or the inability to rise above the hormonal rages that beset the teenager.Friendships formed during your teen years may come and go, but some will last into your adult years; some even for a lifetime. Remember, you are only a teenager once; this can be very stressful years and friendships.
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